How many times have we gleaned from our elders? How many times have they told us old cliches?

 

Its 1:00 in the morning and i finally get what my great-grandmother was trying to teach me at an earlier age and time in my life.  its so quiet, calm, peaceful and relxing where i am at this moment.. i swear i can hear her speaking to me…

Thank you BIG Momma! i hear you this time and this time not only do I hear you, but i also understand what you’re saying this time…

“KIKI, BABY, YOU GOTTA HAVE WATER HYDRANT LOVE. Or else you’ll have a long row to hoe in life!

In case you’re to young to know what “having a long row to hoe” means… it was a term that the elders and ancestors used while working in the cotton fields in the south. It simply meant you had a long days work ahead of you.

 

 

Its the year 2017 and my great-grandmother knew when i was a young girl that i loved foolishly and purely.  Loving the wrong people that way has gotten me into quite a bit of trouble along this life journey of mine.

I’ve always been told by the matriarchs in my family, that i loved to hard.  I NEVER truly understood what that meant.  As I’ve aged and experienced some of lifes most hurtful upsets and let downs. I’ve come to realize that maybe what i should have been being told was… KIKI YOU LOVE UNWORTHY  PEOPLE, People who weren’t made to recieve the  love you posess and they dont deserve your love.    i know you must be thinking thats TOTALLY wrong!  you should love everyone… true you should have a compassion for humans and we all know that “God” commanded us to love.

But how should we love?

At 45 years old,  i think that as of today, i FINALLY GOT IT BIG MOMMA.

Its perfectly fine for me to love people in my capacity.  Its perfectly fine to love people unconditionally.  But i have had to learn who and what deserves the different types of love that i have to give.

 

It is in my opinion that the only people worthy of recieving TRUE UNCONDITIONAL love are your babies, your toddlers, your adolescents,  and your teen children; that is it! NO one else should be loved UNCONDITIONALLY!

NOT YOUR PARENTS, NOT YOUR SIBLINGS NOT YOUR ADULT CHILDREN,  NOT YOUR FRIENDS NOT YOUR WIVES or your HUSBANDS…

And i say that because babies didnt ask to come here and children  love innocently and unconditionally  but adults,  ANY ADULT that is toxic in your life in any way or that is detrimental to your being or your growth as a person as a human being, that ADULT does not deserve your unconditional love!. you may love them but it has to be with some sort of condition otherwise you are setting yourself up for a disastrous situation.

I GET IT BIG MOMMA… the love that flowed from my heart for people of all kinds, family, friends, and spouses…. has stopped flowing like a running faucet…it has now become a drip!.

because with water hydrant love you have the power  to stop and start the flow as well as the power to control the speed of the flow.

FOR ALL OF THOSE that I KNOW THAT IVE LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY….let this be your notice. see this drip in the pic above, thats the love that you ALL WILL NOW RECIEVE. its still love indeed however, it is up to you when and if it will ever flow like running water from a faucet  again.

and i have no problem with giving it to you this way… completely at a STANDSTILL!   NO FLOW AT ALL.

BE BLESSED! #STR8NOCHASR